Hello everyone, I have been told on many occasions that I have a quirky sense of humor and an interesting way of looking at the world. Therefore, I have been asked by some friends and family members to add a section where I answer questions and make comments to people who are interested in what I have to say. I think this would be fun so here we go.
In this section you are free to ask me questions or tell me your stories and get my opinion or just share your experiences from a mental health perspective.
Hi Felicia! How do handle a coworker with more seniority and experience who responds “I don’t Know” when they don’t want to complete a certain task, and you know they’ve completed the required competencies?
My first approach is always straightforward and honest. I would approach said coworker professionally and asked the probing question “excuse me I noticed that you did not complete a particular task and being a professional I know you are aware of how it’s done is there something I should know are you okay”lol at first we want to always appear nonthreatening when faced with outright laziness and not professional behavior before we have to take it to the next level.
My man consistently underwhelms me on important occasions like Mother’s Day and my birthday. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care. And then I feel resentful and distant. I do so much for him! I try to make Father’s Day and his birthday really special. How can I get him to show me some love?
Hello sunshine, this is a very common issue with men, unfortunately. The first thing to remember is that men are very basic creatures and then they don’t think like women. Which is a good thing most of the time…:) So what we need to do is help them to help us by simplifying the things that we need from them. Give them choices meaning: multiple-choice options to choose from when it comes to gifting and surprises that he can pick from of the things that you enjoy or would like to see happen in your relationship. It gives him the ability to surprise you and not have to think about what it is you need from him you help him and you also satisfy your emotional need to feel special.
Hi Felicia, what’s the best way to handle people who ask questions that are clearly none of their business? For example, I’ve had people ask about my income, or whether or not I’m going to have kids.
Hello Soleil, when people approach us with these painfully personal questions is usually an indication that at some point in the relationship they believe that they could approach you on this level. So your job is to clarify for them the parameters of the relationship. And that is you speak “your truth’. Meaning, “that is a very personal question and I do not wish to share that information or discuss this matter with you any further”. Remember, when speaking your truth you cannot take responsibility for other people’s emotional reaction.